There are so many things in my mind all the time. Sometimes they just over lap in time and space, making me lost of words. It is as though there are times when friends and family ask me something, I might tell them things that could have happened long ago as though they were recent and at the same time telling them things that are happening. So it confuses not just them but as well as me. Haha…
Maybe I am just someone who loves to take things off my chest, and when things that happened long ago was not told, I will just let it off once and for all. So, if there is something bad, people will always thought that I am still unhappy or could not get over with it.
I would say it is not true at all. Even if I would have gotten over it long ago, I will always be able to feel that instant relive of the incident when I share, so as to let people understand how it felt like and how exciting the story can be. That does not mean I hold grudges or still emotional about it. I am just someone who likes to be expressive even though there are times I cannot, I will do my best.
It is fun sometimes to relive what was once lost; be it sadness, happiness, laughter and sorrow. It is once in a while, good to think back what you have done to come this far. It helps to make your future a better place too. Whatever happened before, you try your best to make things right at this very moment. It motivates you to move on further ahead as far as you want to achieve.
There are always moments in time that will spark all these memories and time that will let you off. Either sadness or happiness, it should all turn out to be something you will feel relief of going through. The past moulds the future afterall...
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Handle It
Many always regret doing what they had done in the first place. And the only way to realize it is AFTER you have done it. You would not know before you do it, do you? After Action Review I should say…
But what done can never be undone. It boils down to chicken or egg first. Every time after something has been done, you thought you did it right because this is what you have decided. Only after you see the result then you will start pondering about what could have been done differently to make it better. There is no wrong or right with our decisions because we have our own way of handling stuff. It may be right for us but not for others. When you feel stronger after what you have done, probably that makes it right and the weaker ones will find you wrong, and they start getting defensive with all the aftermath.
Handle things differently? Well, if things can always be handled differently, the world is perfect don’t you think? You will not know what you could have handled differently ONLY after you see the results. And if you know these before you act, you can see future and the world would probably be perfect for most of us since we can get what we always wanted. Then it is time to WAKE UP!
Why not tell your all previous relationships, “You could have rejected this relationship in the first place to save you all these problems with me.” But hey, there are things you would not find out until it actually happens. And some things that have happened cannot be reversed. So perhaps it is time to think what the next best step is for you and all of us, whichever convinces you.
Once done it is irreversible. The only few things you can do after that is Regret, Reconciliation and/or Repent. If you regret, you cannot move on clinging on the past. If you reconcile, you are giving chances to salvage current situation and make up to it. If you repent, you tell yourself you will do your best not to repeat any major similar mistakes in all future undertakings. All these may happen at the same time. Let’s just see how you are going to decide upon that and I shan’t explain more.
I don’t exactly agree with people always telling me things should have been different if you handle it differently. As I have said, certain things cannot be seen until it happens. It is not as rational as doing up business projects or anything physically visible. Situations have to happen to see the invisibles. Like they always say, “You will only realize how much you ought to cherish when you lose it or starts losing it.”
Handle things differently? Then we shouldn’t have come to this… world? We call this Risk… =)
But what done can never be undone. It boils down to chicken or egg first. Every time after something has been done, you thought you did it right because this is what you have decided. Only after you see the result then you will start pondering about what could have been done differently to make it better. There is no wrong or right with our decisions because we have our own way of handling stuff. It may be right for us but not for others. When you feel stronger after what you have done, probably that makes it right and the weaker ones will find you wrong, and they start getting defensive with all the aftermath.
Handle things differently? Well, if things can always be handled differently, the world is perfect don’t you think? You will not know what you could have handled differently ONLY after you see the results. And if you know these before you act, you can see future and the world would probably be perfect for most of us since we can get what we always wanted. Then it is time to WAKE UP!
Why not tell your all previous relationships, “You could have rejected this relationship in the first place to save you all these problems with me.” But hey, there are things you would not find out until it actually happens. And some things that have happened cannot be reversed. So perhaps it is time to think what the next best step is for you and all of us, whichever convinces you.
Once done it is irreversible. The only few things you can do after that is Regret, Reconciliation and/or Repent. If you regret, you cannot move on clinging on the past. If you reconcile, you are giving chances to salvage current situation and make up to it. If you repent, you tell yourself you will do your best not to repeat any major similar mistakes in all future undertakings. All these may happen at the same time. Let’s just see how you are going to decide upon that and I shan’t explain more.
I don’t exactly agree with people always telling me things should have been different if you handle it differently. As I have said, certain things cannot be seen until it happens. It is not as rational as doing up business projects or anything physically visible. Situations have to happen to see the invisibles. Like they always say, “You will only realize how much you ought to cherish when you lose it or starts losing it.”
Handle things differently? Then we shouldn’t have come to this… world? We call this Risk… =)
Captivity of Identity
Recently I found some friends happened to have changed their names… New name, new life… is that it? But you are who you are!
No offence, but you are in captivity of identity. Not knowing who you actually are. All you know is perhaps, you did something wrong or something bad happened before and thinking that changing identity helps you to move on a different life or direction.
Life is not like a hard disk. When there is something wrong with your computer, you reboot, reformat. But life is not as simple as you think. It is not as though you can reboot or reformat and start all over again as and when you want to. Whatever happened in the past makes you who you are now and what happens now makes you who you are in the future. And only after you have done it, then will you realize if it is wrong or right in your own individual mindset. Yes, there are things that you can simulate before things happen. But will all those simulations end up being what you are expecting? Well, definitely some, but I am sure not all of them.
Even memories that have been formatted and removed from a hard disk can still be retrieved unless the hard disk is physically destroyed. Look, aren’t hard disks like a human life too? We can forgive, but it is really hard to forget because whatever that has an impact over you, it will never go away. You can move on to your future by putting the past away or you can learn from it as well. But you will have to be brain dead to remove all of those. Unless so, even if you changed your name or even migrate oversea or even trying your best to avoid people from the past, whatever it is, once it pops up it is there. It will still be there under the higher state of your consciousness.
I would say take them as lessons. Either it will not happen or if history repeats itself, you would probably know by then how to handle it under harsh conditions. To gain strength is to face your weakness. When computer encounters viruses, there are anti viruses program to prevent it or patches to repair them. If you have virus in you, you must face it and find patches to fix it. And after you have fixed it, you will have higher immunity to it. It must be confronted and not running away from it.
It is really annoying when people try running away but claimed that they are not, and that they are moving forward. Well, I would say that is still, running. You have to make things clear and let all these off your chest. When it is finally fixed, that is when you can really move on. If not, it is just like you ignore the virus in your computer as long as it works, you move on. But then your computer will not last any longer, it collapses. If you cannot fix your past, it will haunt you when it resurfaces. It is just the same as your computer; a pop up will always appear during intervals, stating that there is a virus within. All you do is click ignore or cancel, if that is what you want.
And when you get so annoyed with all these, you reformat your computer even if you have to abandon those valuable data in your hard disk. Just like you try to abandon and avoid all those past happenings. I know what you guys out there would say. How about a backup drive? Your only back up drive is your friends and family who will be with you. Those involved re-triggers your past be it good or bad. If you have fixed it, it will be, “Hey do you remember those times we had? What a day that was…”, if not, “Oh come on give me a break, it is over let’s not talk about it anymore. It’s too much…”
So what do you want as you think you are moving on? Remember peeps, Face your weakness finds great strength.
No offence, but you are in captivity of identity. Not knowing who you actually are. All you know is perhaps, you did something wrong or something bad happened before and thinking that changing identity helps you to move on a different life or direction.
Life is not like a hard disk. When there is something wrong with your computer, you reboot, reformat. But life is not as simple as you think. It is not as though you can reboot or reformat and start all over again as and when you want to. Whatever happened in the past makes you who you are now and what happens now makes you who you are in the future. And only after you have done it, then will you realize if it is wrong or right in your own individual mindset. Yes, there are things that you can simulate before things happen. But will all those simulations end up being what you are expecting? Well, definitely some, but I am sure not all of them.
Even memories that have been formatted and removed from a hard disk can still be retrieved unless the hard disk is physically destroyed. Look, aren’t hard disks like a human life too? We can forgive, but it is really hard to forget because whatever that has an impact over you, it will never go away. You can move on to your future by putting the past away or you can learn from it as well. But you will have to be brain dead to remove all of those. Unless so, even if you changed your name or even migrate oversea or even trying your best to avoid people from the past, whatever it is, once it pops up it is there. It will still be there under the higher state of your consciousness.
I would say take them as lessons. Either it will not happen or if history repeats itself, you would probably know by then how to handle it under harsh conditions. To gain strength is to face your weakness. When computer encounters viruses, there are anti viruses program to prevent it or patches to repair them. If you have virus in you, you must face it and find patches to fix it. And after you have fixed it, you will have higher immunity to it. It must be confronted and not running away from it.
It is really annoying when people try running away but claimed that they are not, and that they are moving forward. Well, I would say that is still, running. You have to make things clear and let all these off your chest. When it is finally fixed, that is when you can really move on. If not, it is just like you ignore the virus in your computer as long as it works, you move on. But then your computer will not last any longer, it collapses. If you cannot fix your past, it will haunt you when it resurfaces. It is just the same as your computer; a pop up will always appear during intervals, stating that there is a virus within. All you do is click ignore or cancel, if that is what you want.
And when you get so annoyed with all these, you reformat your computer even if you have to abandon those valuable data in your hard disk. Just like you try to abandon and avoid all those past happenings. I know what you guys out there would say. How about a backup drive? Your only back up drive is your friends and family who will be with you. Those involved re-triggers your past be it good or bad. If you have fixed it, it will be, “Hey do you remember those times we had? What a day that was…”, if not, “Oh come on give me a break, it is over let’s not talk about it anymore. It’s too much…”
So what do you want as you think you are moving on? Remember peeps, Face your weakness finds great strength.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Boring Introduction
I guess I should start off with my new blog by doing the most common, boring and unattractive post. SELF-INTRODUCTION~!
Ok, call me Aromsia. I got this nick from Thai. It means emotional or something along that line. When it comes to Thai, guys will be wondering, “Do I visit Thai Discos?” the answer is YES. Haha… but that does not mean I gotten voodoo like my friends have.
I’m a normal boy next door kind of guy I suppose. I like to draw, sing, dance, workout and many other common sports like soccer and basketball. I club and party often when I was younger, but now I cut down a lot already.
Well I’m in my late 20’s starting this year. So old already… I am a super “Singlish” man. So after this proper introduction of me, you guys out there will experience my “Singlishness” on my subsequent posts.
I’m not someone who blogs my every single movement in my life. I’ve seen enough of those, “I ate ice-cream at Swenson”, “I went to see my friends, Mary, Lucy and Wanton, at Vivo”. All these detail crap is not my cup of tea. And I’m very sure that none of you will be interested of something you always will be doing.
It may be tiring to follow up on my blog because I would say that I’m an unorganized person, impatience and hot-tempered old man. I will probably blog whatever I wish to and whenever I wish to. Maybe not the everyday issue routine, but rather every situation issue type. No situations, no issues. And of course that does not only apply to MY situations but rather as a whole; what I hear, I see and/or I experienced, I will be most glad to share my point here to take everything off my chest.
I guess by now, some who know me might already guessed it’s me. But hey, as for now don’t give me away, ok? I want to try being anonymous for now. Even if you know who I am, don’t tell me. =)
Ok, call me Aromsia. I got this nick from Thai. It means emotional or something along that line. When it comes to Thai, guys will be wondering, “Do I visit Thai Discos?” the answer is YES. Haha… but that does not mean I gotten voodoo like my friends have.
I’m a normal boy next door kind of guy I suppose. I like to draw, sing, dance, workout and many other common sports like soccer and basketball. I club and party often when I was younger, but now I cut down a lot already.
Well I’m in my late 20’s starting this year. So old already… I am a super “Singlish” man. So after this proper introduction of me, you guys out there will experience my “Singlishness” on my subsequent posts.
I’m not someone who blogs my every single movement in my life. I’ve seen enough of those, “I ate ice-cream at Swenson”, “I went to see my friends, Mary, Lucy and Wanton, at Vivo”. All these detail crap is not my cup of tea. And I’m very sure that none of you will be interested of something you always will be doing.
It may be tiring to follow up on my blog because I would say that I’m an unorganized person, impatience and hot-tempered old man. I will probably blog whatever I wish to and whenever I wish to. Maybe not the everyday issue routine, but rather every situation issue type. No situations, no issues. And of course that does not only apply to MY situations but rather as a whole; what I hear, I see and/or I experienced, I will be most glad to share my point here to take everything off my chest.
I guess by now, some who know me might already guessed it’s me. But hey, as for now don’t give me away, ok? I want to try being anonymous for now. Even if you know who I am, don’t tell me. =)
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